Neomamma Challenges - Criticize Addict

It was my first time as a mother when I stepped into the mall to buy baby products. I still remember the sense of embarrassment that surrounded me.

I was very anxious to see so many products in the baby section. What is the right cream, right shampoo, food to feed, etc.? I pondered, was it only me who felt that way? The answer was no. It wasn't just me.

For new mothers, this is a very common challenge. Neomamma is often judged as soon as she delivers. She is usually criticized the same day she is shifted from labor ward to the maternity ward. Indeed, being a mother is a taxing job but not a rocket science.

• Why is the baby so thin? Didn't you eat well during your pregnancy?

• Why give powder milk, not fresh milk?

• Why is the baby not talking? It's almost one year?

• Why is the baby awake at night? Set a discipline.

• What food are you feeding? Aren't you feeding well?

• This processed food is not nice and the questions goes on.

To avoid criticism and to prove oneself as an excellent mothers, a balloon of stress is built up in the brains.

Reflecting myself in the mirror, I always wondered, do people not see my dark circles, my scanty hair, extreme mood swings, the changes I went through after my delivery? Probably no. However, as I moved ahead riding on rough waves, I realized later that parenthood is an institution for every parent. It's a learning experience for new mothers. With the baby, a woman too grows as a mother. From trying different diapers, clothes to different food, skin products, etc. People often share their experiences but no one's stories matter as all kids are not the same. Every child has their own growth phase. What I learned from my experience is that you don't need anyone's approval to verify you as a good parent. Finally, it's your child that will certify you.